I'm talking about BDSM and other adult entertainment. Should you run to a psychiatrist if you feel like spanking or tying up your partner? Where do people get fantasies of dominance and even violence in sex? Do you practice this with your partner?
You have to learn to separate the picture from real life. Porn is a movie for men, made by men. But animal sex quickly leads to satiety. And in order to excite, to stimulate sexual arousal, people look for variety in various perversions. That's not for me.
I believe that adults can decide for themselves what they like and BDSM is no exception. But only if it's not by force, but by mutual desire of both partners. We recently bought a bdsm bar. As you have realized, we are not the most shy people and can afford to experiment. But we are still far away from the professionals. I advise you not to be shy and talk to your partner about it, I am sure she will support you.
